If suitable, mediation can be a better way of resolving issues about finance, or arrangements for children when you and your partner either separate or divorce. It is not only for couples, however, and wider family disputes can be mediated, such as the question of grandparents contact to their grandchildren. Mediation can be less expensive than going to Court, and less stressful.
Mediation is a completely neutral process which involves an impartial mediator facilitating negotiation between the parties to agree their own arrangements by way of a "Memorandum of Understanding". If you are able to, you should consult a solicitor to look over the Memorandum, and it is advisable to take legal advice throughout the mediation process to keep you on the right track. Depending on the dispute, the agreement reached can be endorsed by the Court as your solicitor will be able to convert it into a suitably worded "Consent Order".
For many Court Applications it is a prerequisite that you have attended a MIAM (mediation Information and Assessment meeting) where a mediator will assess whether or not your dispute is capable of being resolved through mediation.
As the applicant to the Court you are expected to have contacted a family mediator in order to make arrangements to attend a MIAM with a family mediator or to provide reasons why you have not done so Form FM1.
Please note that it is open to either party to say that they would prefer to attend a MIAM separately, and mediators have a responsibility to ensure the safety of all concerned.
It is, however, entirely your prerogative to refuse to attend mediation. It should be noted, however, that there is increasing pressure from the Courts for people to give mediation (and other forms of non-court dispute resolution) serious consideration and you will be asked by the court at the start of any application and throughout to explain your attitude towards mediation and other forms of dispute resolution. Please see our article regarding these obligations.